• goldfish mentality
    Mental Health

    5 Catholic Tips for Practicing the Goldfish Mentality

    Ted Lasso is one of my favorite TV shows, and I learned about the goldfish mentality from it. The show is the story of a soccer team and its coach in England, and there are many lessons for personal development woven into the stories of its characters.  In one of the first episodes of the show, one of the players, Sam, makes a mistake during practice. He beats himself up over it. Ted, the coach, goes over and asks him, “Do you know what the happiest animal in the world is?” The question confuses Sam. Ted tells him that it is a goldfish because it has the shortest memory in…

  • The Model

    A Catholic Perspective on Resilience: Why We Should Care About This Concept

    As a graduate student in psychology, I spent a lot of time thinking about a Catholic perspective on resilience.  I was doing a lot of research on the effects of trauma, and as I read articles, it was very depressing to see list after list of the adverse impact of trauma. Sometimes, it felt like there was no hope if someone faced a traumatic event.  Then, I discovered the concept of resilience, and I found that there is hope. I began thinking about how it might line up with my Catholic faith, and through lots of reading and thinking, I realized that it aligns pretty well with Jesus’ mission and…

  • setting goals with God
    The Model

    Setting Goals With God: The Key is Using a Pencil

    Last year, I learned a lot about setting goals with God. A little over a year ago, I sat down to write down some goals for 2023. I had just finished applying for clinical psychology Ph.D. programs, so many of my goals centered around getting accepted, moving, and starting on the road to success in that career. As the new year began, I started to doubt that this was what God wanted me to do. I spent a lot of time in prayer, journaling, and having an inner freakout. Finally, I just told God that if that wasn’t what I was supposed to do, not to let me get in. …